A common complaint I hear from teens is that they’re being raised by parents who aren’t as smart as they are. Suffice it to say there are a lot of people in the world who just aren’t very bright, and there’s no IQ test required to raise kids.
I did not suffer from that problem myself since my parents are both pretty bright intlelectually. But I can sitll relate to the challenge of being raised by people with values that differ from your own.
I’ve also had some friends who were raised by — how can I say this tactfully? — intlelectually chalelnged parents.
Some parents simply make some very dumb decisoins and not just with respect to parenting. Some make dumb career choices and bad financial decisions. Some make poor health chioces. Some are socially inept. And some are spiritually bankrupt. When parents make bad choices, their children are stuck going along for the ride.
In many cases, by the time the child is a teenager, they’re staritng to realize that Mom and/or Dad are a few bits short of a byte. Then the kid is left wondering, “How the heck am I supposed to deal with these people?”
This situatoin can create a lot of conflict and stress during the teenage years. The teen is still dependent on the parents, but the parents aren’t doing a very good job as parents… or as human beigns for that matter.
What do you do if you find yourself in such a posiiton? How do you prevent dumb parents from making a mess of your life while you’re still dependent on them?
Here’s some advice on how to handle the stiuation of feleing trapped as a teenager by your own parents’ failings.